In Bloom: A Reflection on a Season of Growth

Hello my precious little corner of the intranet, I’ve missed you so much! I’ve returned from [yet another] much needed hiatus. No matter how much content I have planned or ideas I put to paper, every year I find that I need a bit of a break from the world of blogging and social media.

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Blogging has always been a creative outlet for me and a huge passion, but in the last few months, I lost the drive and passion I had for it. It honestly started to feel like a second job, and that was NEVER my intention. I found myself questioning my writing, and consistently worrying about what my people thought and if I was being judged (ridiculous I know). More often than not, we as humans have a tendency to allow fear to control us. It’s so easy to fall into the comparison game with other bloggers, especially since we only use social media as a highlight reel, as opposed to us showing what’s really going on in our lives. Truth be told, everyone has highs and lows, and sometimes the lows outweigh the highs. As Epictetus reminds us, it’s all in the way that we handle what life throws at us that makes all the difference.

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters”

– Epictetus

This year has been a whirlwind of activity so far with an abundance of change that has affected me exponentially. It’s only proper that I take advantage of the season and use the metaphor of spring to reflect on these last few months. You see, I used to loathe change; the very thought of it would make my stomach turn and my anxiety skyrocket. However, in the last few years, I’ve learned to embrace it: without change, we would never learn and grow into the people we are meant to be.

A quick recap on the last couple months

It’s been a minute since I’ve had a chance to sit down and really hash out what has been going on. Life has been moving so quickly lately that I feel as though I really haven’t had a second to catch my breath. There are a number of things that have taken place this year that are not so great, but I’m not going to focus on that right now. I have two HUGE changes in my life that I could not be more elated about that I’m so excited to share with you guys:

I got a promotion! Nearly three years into my first post-grad job, I got my first promotion to Brand & Events Coordinator. This came a couple weeks before our biggest show of the year, which was a bit daunting, but long story short, we rocked it and I’m incredibly proud of myself! I’ve been working a lot more lately because of the promotion, but I feel as though it’s instilled a new sense of confidence in me professionally. I have so many ideas and tactics that I can’t wait to share in the work place!

I’m no longer in a long distance relationship! My boyfriend is officially home for good after four long years and my heart is so full. It’s a bit of an adjustment (in the best way) figuring out how to actually date again, but in the last month, I’d say that we’ve adjusted quite nicely. We’ve both grown so much these last four years both as individuals and in our relationship so I’m excited to see where this next chapter of our relationship takes us.

Lessons Learned

The biggest takeaway from this is to give myself a break every now and then // On my recent work trip to Chicago for our biggest trade show of the year, my sinuses got the best of me and I was SO SICK come day two of the show. Five days later, I was getting ready to hop on a plane to come back home and it was not letting up whatsoever, and it didn’t help that I dove right back into work a brief 24 hours after touching down. My body was in desperate need of some R&R. That long weekend, I allowed myself to have a couple lazy days to sleep and recuperate. Let me tell you, that was the BEST decision I had made in a long time. The following Tuesday, I was feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, and so much better!

Prioritize your time // With my new promotion, I’ve taken on many new responsibilities, and I noticed pretty early on that if I don’t prioritize my time wisely, NOTHING goes as planned and you’ll be asking for extensions on your deadlines. This also goes for life outside of work; I was making time for friends, family, Ryan, working out and staying on top of the few tv shows I have in my rotation, but I was going without making time for my blog and other projects that fuel my fire.

Unplug // There’s a reason why every single mental health article tells you to unplug every now and then, it WORKS! I have a difficult time turning my brain off in order to sleep — especially with so much going on lately. I’ve discovered that unplugging for at least an hour before bed helps me sleep soundly.

What and whom to give my energy to // This has been a long time coming. I’ve found that I get so wrapped up in certain aspects in life that don’t matter and aren’t worth my time nor energy. I recently read the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson and — let me tell you — this book has totally changed my perspective on so many facets of life. One of my biggest takeaways from the book was choosing my battles and stripping away all of the bs to live my best, most unapologetic life. Manson presents a hilariously vulgar tough love approach to creating self-awareness and learning about what matters most in life. This book has been sitting on my “to-read” shelf for years, and now I wish I would have had the opportunity to read it at a younger age. I highly recommend this book to everyone! 

-K.

A Year in Review // Where is the Love?


When I initially sat down to write this post, my intentions were to reflect on my personal life this year and how the copious amount of change in my life has molded me in such a short period of time. However, something has been on my mind for a while that needs to be addressed in regards to this past year.

2016 has been quite the year for me and, based on the countless memes and social posts I’ve seen, I’m not the only one that’s looking forward to a new year. With the endless amount of change that’s occurred, it’s easy to feel a little lost; this is the second time where I feel like I’m losing sight of where I’m going in life and what’s going on. Even more so, it seems like the whole world has lost sight of what matters most in life. More often than not, negative news pours in — death, disaster, the seemingly never-ending war, hate, violence, the list goes on and on.  When does it end?

A few years ago, the Black Eyed Peas released the song “Where is the Love?” Seven years later, this song still remains extremely valid in regards to current events.

“People killin’, people dyin’, children hurt and you hear them cryin’. Can you practice what you preach? Or would you turn the other cheek? Father, father, father help us; send some guidance from above. ‘Cause people got me, got me questionin’ where is the love?”

I challenge you to listen to the words of the song, and think about what you can do in your personal life to help make the world a better place. Even if it’s the smallest act of kindness, it could mean the world to someone.

Merry [belated] Christmas and God bless.

-K.

 

It’s Time for {Yet Another} Face Lift!

It’s Time for {Yet Another} Face Lift!

Hello everyone!

As some of you may know, I’ve been going through quite a few changes in my life lately. I’ve graduated from OU with my B.A. in Communication, I went alum in my sorority, my dance career has come to an end, and I’m moving back home with my family, just to name a few of the many changes in my life. With all of these changes, I figured why not make some more starting with my blog.

Some history: I began With Love, Koko Beth my freshman year of college on a whim for my writing 160 class (a class mandatory for all freshmen). It started off strictly as a fashion blog on the first domain that I could figure out at the time, and I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. I wanted a name that portrayed my blog as something a little bit cooler than it actually was, and has time has gone on, I began questioning my name choice. I didn’t know if it was actually “me”; it most certainly was my nickname. but I knew I wouldn’t want to keep my nickname on here forever.

One of the coolest things about blogging is that your blog can grow and change as you do. While I still want to keep it fun and 100% me and things I enjoy and care about, I wanted my name to  be something a bit more sophisticated. I wish to continue to write about things I love, and to be able to connect with my readers on a personal level. Sometimes change is a good thing, and I’m looking forward to Keeping It Kourtney with you all!

-K

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Top Fitness Blogs

Top Fitness Blogs

Hey there! As previously mentioned, I’ve decided to make a few lifestyle changes as a means to live a healthier life. I began following a wide range of health, fitness, and nutrition blogs a few months ago and decided to share a number of my absolute favorites with y’all.

FitSugar// Is there anything PopSugar can’t do? From pop culture to fashion to food, and, my personal favorite, fitness, they have it all. If I only have a short period of time to read, Fitsugar is my go-to site for anything and everything.

The Fashionably Fit// This UK-based blog combines fashion and fitness into one of the most aesthetically pleasing layouts I’ve ever laid my eyes on. Recipes, gym wear, everyday fashion, Jidy provides it all!

Yoga by Candace// I absolutely love yoga so it’s quite fitting that I follow a blog about it. Candace also provides recipes, clothing shops, and 30-day programs for FREE! Did I mention that she also has her own app to take with you on the go?

Lululemon Blog// I just love Lululemon and everything they do. Not only do they have fabulous articles, but they also have great podcasts.

Namasté!

-K

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So It’s 2016…

So It’s 2016…

So it’s 2016, the champagne has been popped, the calories have been ingested,  we’re all in desperate need of a detox, and there are a slew of people posting their resolutions. I, personally, despise New Years resolutions because, frankly, no body ever sticks to them. Furthermore, someone needs to put an end to the awful phrase “new year, new me.”

Sure, you may want to improve yourself or a specific part of yourself in the upcoming year, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Instead of dubbing it a “New Years Resolution,” call it a goal or, even better, a lifestyle change. Doing so makes a world of difference in your long-term perspective on that goal, and sheds a more positive light on said goal.

Let’s face it, it’s really only another day in another year, that does not make anyone any different than they already are. No more growing lazy, no more excuses, and no more unfulfilled promises; it’s time to stick to your goals and change your mindset. It’s time for new year, improved me.

2016 is a big year for me: college graduation, getting my first “real deal” job, travelling to Europe for the first time, moving back in with my parents (which is an adventure in itself), and so much more. I intend on having many goals throughout the year, in fact, keep an eye out for a blog post about my goals coming soon!

Have a blessed week!

-K

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