HOT TIPS FOR PLANNING A JOINT BACHELOR-BACHELORETTE PARTY

One of the most fun aspects of planning a wedding is planning the bachelor/bachelorette party, but how does one go about planning a joint party for the bride and the groom?

I recently stood up as the Maid of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. It was my first time standing up in a wedding as a bridesmaid and I didn’t really know what to expect. One thing that I knew I would be responsible for is planning and executing the bachelorette party. My friend and her now husband decided that they wanted a joint party out of town, so I started to build my arsenal of ideas early on to make all of their bachelor-bachelorette party dreams come true.

When I started doing research for planning, I found that there were little to no posts about how to plan a joint bachelor-bachelorette party. So I decided to take the liberty to do it myself and bring you guys the hot tips and lessons learned during my time planning:

  1. Talk to the bride and groom about their expectations. Before you do anything, ask the bride and groom: a.) What city they want to celebrate in. b.) What their must-do activities and must-see attractions are. c.) Any other must-haves to make the weekend the bachelor/bachelorette party of their dreams.
  2. Start planning months in advance; DO NOT wait until the last minute. I started planning the party and gathering ideas immediately after the couple told me where they wanted to go. While the location changed as we got closer, I had both a Google document and Pinterest board going filled with ideas that could easily transfer. This also helps with budgeting; set a timeline for payments and purchasing decor, gifts, etcetera so you don’t blow all your money at once.
  3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I admit it, I’m a total control freak and perfectionist; I get an idea in my head and need to follow through on it. However, between my full-time job, planning the party, and maintaining my sanity, I needed an extra set of hands or two. The bride’s brother and sister-in-law graciously offered their assistance and helped play a pivotal role in the success of the party.
  4. Don’t worry about packing the schedule. It is not necessary (nor fun) to jam-pack the schedule so full of activities that you’re stressing out about making it to the activities on time and not having enough downtime. Remember: even though it is a bachelor-bachelorette party, people want to relax and enjoy their time, especially if they’re on vacation for it. I chose to leave at least one open day so that we could explore the town and do whatever it was we felt like doing at that time. 
  5. Spend a day of the trip — or at least a few hours — apart doing separate activities for the guys and ladies. It’s so important to give the bride and groom some time to focus on themselves with their guys or girls. Saturday morning of the weekend, the girls got massages at a local spa, while the guys went axe throwing. It was the perfect amount of time to focus on the bride and groom individually. Following these activities, we all met up at the hotel for a pool party prior to the evening festivities.
  6. Do not sweat the minute details.I know — easier said than done and I may or may not have broken this rule myself since it comes with the territory of being a perfectionist, but should you forget something minor or anything go awry, chances are you’re the only one who realizes it. Don’t overthink what goes in the gift bags or whether or not you have enough decor these things do not make or break the event.
  7. You absolutely CANNOT please everyone. There are only two people whose happiness matters: the bride and the groom. Double the attendees means double the opinions that do not matter. So long as the bride and groom are having fun and enjoying themselves, there’s no need to worry about anyone else.
  8. Event planning 101: If anything can go wrong, it will go wrong. People will show up to reservations late and winging the night might not always go to plan, just roll with the punches. Use your best judgement to handle the situation, and move on. Remember that you need to enjoy yourself too after all of your hard work.

Do you have any more tips that you didn’t see here? Drop them in the comments!

-K

Calling All PR Girls!!

PR Girl logo3-07.jpgHave you ever wanted an exclusive look into what goes on behind the scenes in the world of public relations?

WhatRUWearing and PR Couture partnered up to produce the reality web series PR Girl. The show follows Chicago-based entertainment publicist, social media expert, full-time graduate student and Lyme Disease advocate Alexandra Moresco as she balances grad school at DePaul University, planning her wedding and the first annual Chicago gala for a global organization, all while running her own PR firm.

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As many of my readers know, I studied communication and public relations in college, and am pursuing a career in the field of PR. Lately, however, I’ve been struggling with where I’m currently at and where I’m headed in my career.  Just when I was thinking about giving up on my dream of working in public relations, I received an email promoting the web series. Immediately I knew I HAD to watch it, and managed to binge it within the hour.

After watching part 1 of the series, I wanted to run out and tell my friends that are pursuing careers in PR about it! I found it very easy to relate to Alex as a young professional. She proves that no matter how young you are, you are capable of anything and everything you set your mind to as long as you’re willing to put in the work, and I think that is a great message. The show also gives the viewer an inside look into what really goes behind the glitz and glamour of PR.

Watching this show has inspired me to keep pushing forward no matter what obstacles I may face on my way to reaching my goals. That is why I was so excited to have the opportunity to ask Alex a few questions about her career in the below Q & A!

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Q & A with Alexandra Moresco

Kourtney: Why did you want to get into the PR profession?

Alexandra: Honestly – getting into the PR field was a mistake! I started out at DePaul University as an accounting major – if you know anything about accounting, there is no creativity in it! I wound up starting a blog to exercise my creative muscle and much to my shock people actually read it. I wound up learning how to make media kits, work with brands and grow a following which ultimately led me to developing PR skills! I changed my major to PR my Sophomore year of college and knew it was for me.

What do you find most challenging about your career?

PR in general can be a challenging field because the landscape is always changing- there is always a new social media network, media outlet or app to keep up with. You constantly have to be very in tune with the industry and what is trending.

What drives your success?

I have always been a little bit of a workaholic- I love working with clients I truly believe in, and every mention we get or deal we do feels like a major win. My clients become some of my best friends so I am always very passionate about seeing them succeed.

Right now, I am doing a lot of work fundraising and raising awareness for Global Lyme Alliance: a 501C3 nonprofit that is working to find accurate diagnostic testing and a cure for Lyme disease. 55% of testing for Lyme is inaccurate and there is no cure which I find totally unacceptable. I am personally battling Lyme right now so the thought of changing chronic illness for the next generation is what keeps me going.

What do you do to keep current in the PR industry?

Personally, I stay in touch with others in different areas of the industry to see what is going on. I also read magazines like Entrepreneur and Fast Company to keep up to date with what is changing in tech to see where social media is headed.

What is your favorite part of your job?

My favorite part of working in PR is the fact that I get to work on projects that I am incredibly passionate about all while exercising my creative muscle!

What is your best advice for aspiring PR professionals?

I have two chunks of advice for aspiring PR professionals. Growing up, my mom had a plaque in our kitchen that said “say little, do much.” That always reminded me not to just say I was going to do something, but to actually do it.

The second has to be: be a genuine, nice person. Most people can tell if you are being disingenuous and will stay away from you. Being nice to everyone you meet should just be common sense: after getting diagnosed with Lyme, it truly made me realize that everyone is going through some kind of personal battle. If you are a kind person, good things will come your way, personally and professionally!

Have you watched PR Girl, yet? Binge watch season 1 here, and let me know what you think!

-K.