Cheers to 5 Years: 5 Lessons Learned from 5 Years of Blogging

Cheers to 5 Years: 5 Lessons Learned from 5 Years of Blogging

I’m finally back from my two month hiatus! Truth is, it was much-needed for me to take a step back and focus on my full-time job and my mental and physical health, which I will be addressing in an upcoming post. Today I am celebrating something near and dear to my heart: this blog!

5 years ago yesterday, I started on a journey to enhance my writing skills on an outlet that I never knew would become such a passion of mine.  From the very beginning, I knew that this isn’t something I wanted to do for money or likes, but I wanted to do it because it was something that I genuinely enjoyed, and I desperately needed a creative outlet. I always thought, “if one person can read this, and take something away from it that makes them feel as though they’ve connected on some level with me, then I’m doing something right.” One of the beautiful things about blogging is that it’s a way of telling your story without any guidelines or having to stick to anyone else’s voice. The fact that I’ve always been able to be 100% authentic is what truly drives me to continue to blog.

TOP 5 LESSONS LEARNED IN 5 YEARS OF BLOGGING:

  1. There will be times when you need to take a step back from blogging, and that’s okay. Life can be really freaking hard sometimes and you owe it to yourself to keep your health in check. 
  2. Your writing, style and interests will evolve and change as you grow and learn. Let it happen.
  3. Quit comparing yourself to others; you don’t have to “keep up with the Joneses” to be a good blogger.
  4. Stay true to yourself — don’t try to be someone you’re not.
  5. People will be judgmental and have some not-so-nice things to say when you put yourself out there. Don’t let these people stop you from sharing your story and chasing your dreams.

BONUS LESSON

Always have kickass support system behind you. Unfortunately, your blog will not be everyone’s cup of tea, but there are always those family members and friends that will be there to support your every blog and Instagram post regardless of how avant garde it can be. Make sure you keep these people in your circle forever.

Thank you so much for sharing in this journey with me these last five years, and for the steadfast support. I have some of the best followers ever!

Cheers to many more years!

– K

50 Ways to Practice Self Care

50 Ways to Practice Self Care

Self love is a huge buzzword lately. If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll know that I recently shared a post stating that I have always struggled with it. Once I reflected a bit on my post and thoughts about the topic, I really started to think about what things I currently do and what I could do to aid with my practice. I consulted some of my closest friends on ways that they cope with the bad days, and practice self care. Creating self love takes time, but practicing everyday helps to improve it little by little.

Here are 50 ways that my friends and I practice self care:

  1. Take a bubble bath
  2. Read a book
  3. Treat yourself to a mani/pedi
  4. Yoga
  5. Meditation
  6. Turn on some of your favorite music and have a solo dance party (or with your friends if you so choose)
  7. Light one of your favorite scented candles
  8. Unplug for at least an hour
  9. Go for a walk or run
  10. Do a hair or face mask (or both!)
  11. Splurge on that item you’ve been eye-ing to help amp up your wardrobe
  12. Ask for help from friends and family
  13. Write out your thoughts and feelings
  14. Focus your energy into a workout
  15. Clean and organize
  16. Watch one of your favorite movies
  17. Have a glass of wine
  18. Cuddle with your pet or a loved one
  19. Laugh – put on one of your favorite comedy movies or tv shows
  20. Stop comparing yourself to others
  21. Keep yourself hydrated by drinking plenty of water
  22. Forgive yourself
  23. Remove toxic people from your life
  24. Go on an adventure to a place you’ve always wanted to visit
  25. Stop making excuses
  26. Search for the positives in every situation, regardless of how hard that may be
  27. Take an online (or in-person, if you prefer) class to expand your knowledge on a topic
  28. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you may be feeling, even cry if you need to
  29. Pray if it fits your beliefs
  30. Take a nap
  31. Indulge in a sweet treat
  32. Plan a girls’ night out with your best friends
  33. Eat healthy
  34. Get creative and try your hand at a Pinterest craft
  35. Have a night in with your SO
  36. Check an item off of your to do list that you’ve been avoiding
  37. Try something new be it an activity, recipe or restaurant
  38. Practice gratitude
  39. Bring the outdoors indoors and buy yourself some flowers or a house plant
  40. Get a massage
  41. Watch the sunset
  42. Recite positive affirmations to yourself
  43. Change up your look with a new hairdo or applying your makeup differently
  44. Play a relaxation Pandora station
  45. Cook a meal featuring your favorite comfort foods
  46. Be mindful
  47. Call a loved one you haven’t spoken to in a while
  48. Stop feeling guilty for taking some time for yourself
  49. Switch things up by creating a new routine
  50. Remember that you’re doing the best you can, and focus on your progress

 

Do you have some self care tips that didn’t make the list? Leave a comment below!

-K.

Follow Friday

Hello and Happy {FINALLY} Friday!

I’m not going to lie to you — this has been one of the absolute longest weeks ever, but it’s finally time for the weekend and I’m so excited to share with you some of my favorite blogger friends to follow! These ladies inspire me with every post, and I hope you love them just as much as I do. I’m sharing their Instagrams on my Insta stories today as well, so be sure to give them and myself a follow to stay up-to-date on our blogs (& lives)!

Bri Car

I know you’ve seen me talk about this lady before in several of my previous posts! On her blog, Bri highlights everything from her favorite haunts in Detroit to music to her own personal experiences in her As Told By Bri series, and so much more. Being one of my personal friends, she pushes me as both an individual and blogger in ways that I never thought possible – never in a million years did I ever think I’d hold not one, but two successful side hustles. Stop in to Bri Car here!

Lauren State of Mind

A friend and fellow blogger that I admire so much is Miss Lauren – or LJ, as I like to call her – the beautiful brains behind Lauren State of Mind. Of course, I love to read up on all of my friends’ and fellow bloggers’ adventures, but one of my absolute favorite things about LJ’s blog is her One Word series. This is easily one of the most well-written, and thought provoking series that I have ever read. Her raw depiction of her encounters in everyday life put into a simple, singular word will make you reflect on your own life and daily practices.

ReadyJesset **coming soon**

A blog that has yet to be launched, but I’m anticipating due to discussion to be incredible is another blogger friend of mine, Jessah’s, travel blog ReadyJesset. On her blog, you will find tips for traveling to countries such as France, Cuba, and Belgium. Additionally, Jessah will be sharing her experiences of traveling solo, as well as those of her friends! Be on the lookout for her blog!

Comment your favorite blogs below, including your own — I’d love to read them!

-K.

Practicing Positivity

Practicing Positivity

If you’ve been keeping up on current events you’ll know that the world has been a bit of a mess lately (to put it lightly). The war rages on in the Middle East, there have been countless senseless killings and mass murders, and an unbearable amount of hate going on make it a scary place to live in. This brings up the question: how are we supposed to radiate hope and be positive in a time like this?

At the beginning of the year, I promised myself I would be less cynical and began practicing positivity and gratitude. I began avoiding the negativity in my life; this included people, thoughts, messages, and words. I admit, it’s difficult to be positive every second of every day. I still have trials and tribulations, and people and circumstances that annoy or hurt me, everyone does. But it’s the fact that I’m taking the step toward living a more positive life that counts.

In my practice to live a more positive life, besides just thinking more positively, I’ve tried to be more conscious about what I’m posting on the internet. I began to post happy and inspirational posts or re-post things I find funny rather than things that will work people up. For example, I love politics, but if I post something political on Facebook or Twitter, odds are that I’m going to receive some nasty comments that are looking to start a fight. Which leads me to my next point: pick your battles. You don’t need to fight about everything you disagree with, sometimes it’s best to walk away and ignore a situation.

Furthermore, start focusing on doing something for someone at least once a day. You may make a huge difference in someone’s life without evening knowing it. Try to do a random act of kindness every day– it will help you and the other person feel an amazing sense of worth and happiness. If you’re religious, regardless of your religion, even sending up a prayer for someone or for the world as a whole can make the slightest difference. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received is to not underestimate the power of prayer.

Finally, do things that make you happy to be alive, and surround yourself with people that love you and help you grow everyday.

Take care of each other and God bless.

-K

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Allow Me to Introduce Myself….

Allow Me to Introduce Myself….

Hey! What’s Up? Hello!

Welcome to my not-so-new, but definitely improved blog: With Love, Koko Beth! I originally started this blog as a college freshman in my second semester with no idea what to write about or where to even begin. I started writing about my favorite fashion trends and designing different outfits, but after nearly three years of that, I decided I shouldn’t limit myself to only fashion, no matter how much I loved it. While I refuse to give up on fashion completely, I will now include my favorite foods, drinks, music, television, and whatever else I may want to share on my blog (yes, this includes politics and pop culture)!

To begin, I figured I would get you more acquainted with me by sharing a little bit about myself and including a few fast facts. My name is Kourtney, and I am a senior at Oakland University studying Communication and Public Relations. I am a member of the competitive dance team on campus, as well as an executive board member of my sorority. In my free time I enjoy shopping, Pinterest, spending time with my friends and family, traveling, dancing, eating, and blogging. Something about me that most people don’t know is that I am a HUGE history nerd and love documentaries.

KOKO BETH FAST FACTS

Favorite Food: Chicken Caesar Salad

Favorite Animal: Narwhal

Favorite Color: Pink

Favorite Pattern: Tartan/Plaid or Seersucker (depends on the season)

Favorite Movie: The Patriot

Favorite Disney Movie: Beauty and the Beast

Favorite T.V. Show(s): Sex and the City & Gossip Girl

Starbucks Order: Venti Caramel Macchiato

Beverage of Choice: Cosmopolitan

Favorite Magazine: Vogue

Style Inspiration(s): Kate Middleton and Carrie Bradshaw

Favorite Author: Jane Austen

Favorite Book: The Great Gatsby

Car: 2015 Jeep Patriot

Siblings: 2 younger brothers

Favorite Boy Band: Backstreet Boys