HOT TIPS FOR PLANNING A JOINT BACHELOR-BACHELORETTE PARTY

One of the most fun aspects of planning a wedding is planning the bachelor/bachelorette party, but how does one go about planning a joint party for the bride and the groom?

I recently stood up as the Maid of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. It was my first time standing up in a wedding as a bridesmaid and I didn’t really know what to expect. One thing that I knew I would be responsible for is planning and executing the bachelorette party. My friend and her now husband decided that they wanted a joint party out of town, so I started to build my arsenal of ideas early on to make all of their bachelor-bachelorette party dreams come true.

When I started doing research for planning, I found that there were little to no posts about how to plan a joint bachelor-bachelorette party. So I decided to take the liberty to do it myself and bring you guys the hot tips and lessons learned during my time planning:

  1. Talk to the bride and groom about their expectations. Before you do anything, ask the bride and groom: a.) What city they want to celebrate in. b.) What their must-do activities and must-see attractions are. c.) Any other must-haves to make the weekend the bachelor/bachelorette party of their dreams.
  2. Start planning months in advance; DO NOT wait until the last minute. I started planning the party and gathering ideas immediately after the couple told me where they wanted to go. While the location changed as we got closer, I had both a Google document and Pinterest board going filled with ideas that could easily transfer. This also helps with budgeting; set a timeline for payments and purchasing decor, gifts, etcetera so you don’t blow all your money at once.
  3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I admit it, I’m a total control freak and perfectionist; I get an idea in my head and need to follow through on it. However, between my full-time job, planning the party, and maintaining my sanity, I needed an extra set of hands or two. The bride’s brother and sister-in-law graciously offered their assistance and helped play a pivotal role in the success of the party.
  4. Don’t worry about packing the schedule. It is not necessary (nor fun) to jam-pack the schedule so full of activities that you’re stressing out about making it to the activities on time and not having enough downtime. Remember: even though it is a bachelor-bachelorette party, people want to relax and enjoy their time, especially if they’re on vacation for it. I chose to leave at least one open day so that we could explore the town and do whatever it was we felt like doing at that time. 
  5. Spend a day of the trip — or at least a few hours — apart doing separate activities for the guys and ladies. It’s so important to give the bride and groom some time to focus on themselves with their guys or girls. Saturday morning of the weekend, the girls got massages at a local spa, while the guys went axe throwing. It was the perfect amount of time to focus on the bride and groom individually. Following these activities, we all met up at the hotel for a pool party prior to the evening festivities.
  6. Do not sweat the minute details.I know — easier said than done and I may or may not have broken this rule myself since it comes with the territory of being a perfectionist, but should you forget something minor or anything go awry, chances are you’re the only one who realizes it. Don’t overthink what goes in the gift bags or whether or not you have enough decor these things do not make or break the event.
  7. You absolutely CANNOT please everyone. There are only two people whose happiness matters: the bride and the groom. Double the attendees means double the opinions that do not matter. So long as the bride and groom are having fun and enjoying themselves, there’s no need to worry about anyone else.
  8. Event planning 101: If anything can go wrong, it will go wrong. People will show up to reservations late and winging the night might not always go to plan, just roll with the punches. Use your best judgement to handle the situation, and move on. Remember that you need to enjoy yourself too after all of your hard work.

Do you have any more tips that you didn’t see here? Drop them in the comments!

-K

A Day in Detroit

A Day in Detroit

This past Sunday, my friend and I ventured down to Detroit for the day. Although it’s only 45 minutes south of where we live, there’s so much to do and see no matter how many times you visit, especially with this new “renaissance” taking place. Our original plan was to go to our sorority sister’s jewelry party at her apartment in the heart of Downtown, then go to a new restaurant and a museum we’ve never been to. While we stuck to the plan for the most part, we didn’t realize what adventure the day had in store.

10a.m. – In typical Kourtney-Bri fashion, we grabbed some Starbucks and hit the road! I opted for my usual skinny caramel macchiato and some apple crisps for the ride.

My favorite brand of apple crisps by far

11 a.m. – Finally found a spot to park and head into our sister’s Stella + Dot jewelry party, where I spent entirely way too much money, but everything was SO CUTE! I’ll definitely end up hosting a party to get more goodies! I bought the Sutton necklace in mixed metals, as well as the Deco cocktail ring which I’m super obsessed with. What’s really cool about the vast majority of their jewelry can be worn in multiple different ways; for example, the Sutton necklace can be lengthened, shortened, and you can take off different layers and wear them separately or together!

Honestly, I couldn’t be more obsessed if I tried

12:15 p.m. – head to lunch at Wahlburger’s in Greektown, but our plans changed quickly when we found out that there was a wait. After walking around Greektown Casino looking for the steakhouse and discovering it’s closed during the day, we stumbled upon Fishbone’s a New Orleans-inspired restaurant with everything from cajun cuisine to sushi to pasta, there’s something on the menu for everyone! I decided on chicken piccata without sundried tomatoes, a side Caesar salad, and the love potion martini – all of which were absolutely phenomenal.

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2 p.m. – Arrived at the Detroit Institute of Arts (DIA). I could visit it time and time again and forever be in awe at these amazing works of art; It’s one of my favorite places to visit.

Kresge Court – a beautiful little cafè at the heart of the museum

Channeling my inner Hermione in the cafè

 

European Renaissance art has always been my favorite

If you’ve been to Detroit or a city near you, what’s one of your favorite things to do/see on a day trip?

-K