Here’s What’s Up: Quarantine Edition

Alexa, play “Locked Up” by Akon.

First and foremost, I hope everyone is staying safe and healthy during this scary, uncertain time. It’s incredibly overwhelming with the current circumstances of the world looming over our heads and always having it in our face with the news and social media. For a while, it didn’t exactly feel right to push out content at this time, but I’ve found that creating content and writing has been therapeutic for me. I, like many others across the globe, have found myself mentally and emotionally struggling during this time and this is the best way for me to deal with what’s been going on in my mind, so I’ve made the decision to continue to create and distribute my blog posts.

Today is the day that I thought I’d be returning to work and everything would start to shift back to our normal routine, but this is not the case. I’ll be honest, initially this didn’t seem like such a bad gig — a little more time to myself, a two-pace commute to my desk, having a consistent workout schedule. It all sounds pretty great! Now that we are about a month in, I’m finding that I’m having a much harder time with it all. My fiancé and I were in the middle of house hunting, and I was sure that we’d be in our future home within the next few months; however, with the mandatory shelter-in-place in effect in Michigan, our search has come to a screeching halt. Additionally, since he is a firefighter and can potentially be dealing with COVID patients on a daily basis, we have made the decision to socially distance from each other. After being long distance for four years, this should be a piece of cake, but I’m taking it a lot harder than I anticipated. Luckily, I’m safe at home with my immediate family, and we’re all safe and healthy with the exception of an increased feeling of cabin fever. I’ve been making a conscious effort to get some fresh air by going for walks a few times a week or just stepping out on our back patio, and trying to keep in touch with friends and family through texts, calls, FaceTime, and Zoom meetings.

I’m well aware that my own situation is peanuts compared to what others are going through. My heart aches for my little brother and the rest of the senior class of 2020 who are missing out on those final days of high school and college: sports seasons have been cut short, no prom, no spring break, missing out on those final days with their friends, and Lord knows about graduation or graduation parties to celebrate their achievements. My heart goes out to those who cannot gather for various milestones at this time — having to postpone their weddings, being unable to properly put on a funeral or celebration of life for those lives that are lost, and many more circumstances. Finally, my thoughts and prayers are constantly with those who are being directly affected by the virus — people who have and had the virus, their families, those on the frontlines: healthcare workers, first responders, and other essential workers (grocery workers, mail carriers, and many others) putting themselves at risk daily to help fight this and help others through this.

The Positives

Despite everything, I’m making an effort to focus on many personal positives that have come out of this:

  • Working on my Health and Body: I now have a consistent daily workout routine with the help of two of my sorority sisters. Also, being at home has forced me to practice better eating habits and cook meals that are better for me (not including the chocolate croissant above — that is a special treat since it reminds me of happier times). In addition, I’ve developed a solid meditation routine. While I’m still not the best at turning my mind off, I notice that I’m getting better with every practice.
  • Wedding Planning: I have the time to start researching venues and vendors for our wedding. If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I’ve already found my dress (more to come on that later)! With everything so up in the air right now, we have yet to set a concrete date, but we’re aiming for Spring 2022, so getting a head start on planning has me super excited!
  • Blogging: As I mentioned earlier, I’ve been able to dedicate more time to working on my blog and creating more content. It has been very therapeutic to me to do something I’m passionate about.
  • Developing Personal and Professional Skills: I’ve allocated more time to improving myself on both a personal and professional level, utilizing platforms such as Coursera and LinkedIn Learning. This is something I’ve been trying to do for a long time, but time didn’t always allow for me to get through the course; now, I have zero excuse to not get through them!
  • Reading: Slowly but surely, I’m been working on my rather large to-be-read pile. Currently I’m working on The Alice Network by Kate Quinn, and I’m totally captivated by this story. To discover more books that I’m reading, have read, or what I’m looking to read next, check out my Goodreads profile. My goal this year is 55 books, but I’m always hoping to surpass that goal!
  • A Deeper Appreciation: As they say, “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone”. Boy, has that really hit home with me during this time. I’ve always thought that I appreciated the little things, but this has taught me not to take little joys for granted.

A Glimmer of Hope

At the end of all of this, I’m really hoping that people prioritize what’s really important in life, and don’t take our freedoms and privileges for granted. Hug your loved ones a tighter and cherish the time you have with them. We will persevere.

-K.

What’s Your Word for 2017?


I recently read a Levo League article that bid the question “What is your word for 2017?” And challenged readers to choose their word for 2017. Initially it seems like such an easy question, but the more I reflected on past years and my goals for this year, I found it quite difficult. This year I want to be healthy, cultured, and, above all, happy. 

After lots of pondering, I finally landed on my word for 2017: Positivity. 

I’m a cynical person by nature, and I realize the damage that my cynicism does to everyone around me and myself. This is why I’ve decided that this year is going to be different. My goal is to make positivity a habit so that negative thoughts cross my mind less often and, eventually, eliminate negativity all together. The past few years took a toll on my mental health and I currently am having a hard time figuring out my path/purpose in life which has been particularly challenging for me in terms of positivity. However, practicing gratitude daily, getting back in touch with my faith, and  are just a few ways I am taking action. 

I’d love to you what your word is for 2017. Comment below and let’s inspire each other!

-K.

New Year, New Goals // 2017


As I mentioned in my previous post, this year has been a year of constant change and adjustment for me — some good, some bad, some very necessary. I’m not usually one for setting resolutions because I believe the true definition of resolution is “starting a new ‘lifestyle’ for two weeks, and ultimately giving it up for your love of cake, sleep, etc.”. However, I have no qualms against setting personal, realistic goals. In the hopes of creating accountability for myself, I’ve decided to post my personal goals for the upcoming year.

1. Take better care of myself; the past few years were spent getting sick a lot more than the average human should.

2. Drink more water.

3. Work out at least four times a week.

4. Find a work out I enjoy.

5. Focus more on finishing books than finishing Netflix series.

6. Travel as much as possible (Italy here I come)!

7. Positivity, positivity, positivity! There is far too much negativity in the world, and I’ll be much happier than I am when I’m in a, as much as I hate to admit it, cynical state of mind.

8. Become fluent in a new language.

9. Make more out of each and every day; One of 2016’s lessons is that life is far too short.

What are some of your goals for the new year?

-K.

Practicing Positivity

Practicing Positivity

If you’ve been keeping up on current events you’ll know that the world has been a bit of a mess lately (to put it lightly). The war rages on in the Middle East, there have been countless senseless killings and mass murders, and an unbearable amount of hate going on make it a scary place to live in. This brings up the question: how are we supposed to radiate hope and be positive in a time like this?

At the beginning of the year, I promised myself I would be less cynical and began practicing positivity and gratitude. I began avoiding the negativity in my life; this included people, thoughts, messages, and words. I admit, it’s difficult to be positive every second of every day. I still have trials and tribulations, and people and circumstances that annoy or hurt me, everyone does. But it’s the fact that I’m taking the step toward living a more positive life that counts.

In my practice to live a more positive life, besides just thinking more positively, I’ve tried to be more conscious about what I’m posting on the internet. I began to post happy and inspirational posts or re-post things I find funny rather than things that will work people up. For example, I love politics, but if I post something political on Facebook or Twitter, odds are that I’m going to receive some nasty comments that are looking to start a fight. Which leads me to my next point: pick your battles. You don’t need to fight about everything you disagree with, sometimes it’s best to walk away and ignore a situation.

Furthermore, start focusing on doing something for someone at least once a day. You may make a huge difference in someone’s life without evening knowing it. Try to do a random act of kindness every day– it will help you and the other person feel an amazing sense of worth and happiness. If you’re religious, regardless of your religion, even sending up a prayer for someone or for the world as a whole can make the slightest difference. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received is to not underestimate the power of prayer.

Finally, do things that make you happy to be alive, and surround yourself with people that love you and help you grow everyday.

Take care of each other and God bless.

-K

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Liberating My Mind with 50 Questions, Pt. 2

Liberating My Mind with 50 Questions, Pt. 2

As promised, here is the second and final part to last week’s prompt of 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind from where I left off (26 on the actual list)!

  1.  Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? Lose all of my old memories
  2.  Is it possible to know the truth without challenging it first? Yes, but I feel as though it really depends on the situation
  3. Has your greatest fear ever come true? No, thank God!
  4. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it matter now? No and no
  5. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special? Experiencing Disney World for the first time at the age of 5, I always heard the hype about it and wanted to be a Disney princess myself so being able to actually be in the middle of all of the magic with my family really made it so special. It was even more awe-inspiring when I went back at the age of 17 with my family and the magic was still there. It truly is the happiest place on earth!
  6. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive? I feel most passionate and alive whenever I have a challenge placed in front of me in which I tend to doubt my abilities, and come out of it successful and proving to myself that I am able to overcome anything I set my mind to.
  7. If not now, then when? Eventually
  8. If you haven’t achieved it yet, then what do you have to lose? Absolutely nothing to lose, but everything to gain
  9. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you had the best conversation ever? No because I almost always have something to say!
  10. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars? Ignorance, lack of tolerance, and I think a lot of it is based on where they were from and how they were raised; If they were raised with violence and destruction as the only answer to problems, then that’s all that they know and understand.
  11. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? Yes
  12. If you just won a million dollars would you quit your job? LOL no
  13. Would you rather have less work to do or more work that you actually enjoy doing? More work that I enjoy doing
  14. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before? No
  15. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in? Honestly, I’m not too sure; I’ve never really been completely in the dark about something yet.
  16. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow was going to die today, who would you visit? What kind of morbid question is this? Really? You expect me to actually make a decision?
  17. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? Absolutely not
  18. What is the difference between being alive and truly living? Being alive is simply going through everyday motions and just existing while truly living is doing everything you want to do, making a name for yourself, going out into the world and doing something to change someone’s life.
  19. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards and just go ahead and do what you know is right? Now
  20. If we learn from our mistakes, then why are we so afraid to make mistakes? I don’t think we are afraid of making the mistake itself, but the result of making the mistake and what might happen because of it.
  21. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? I’d go with my gut and do what I want in any and all cases without thinking of possible repercussions from those closest to me who’s opinions actually matter to me.
  22. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing? Yesterday when I noticed my asthma was acting up.
  23. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love? Spending time with loved ones and writing; I believe that I try to do everything with love so I hope that through my blog and the smallest interactions with those closest to me that my love is expressed.
  24. In 5 years from now will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? No and no
  25. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself or are you letting others make them for you? I’m making them for myself.

Well that’s all she wrote, folks! Stay tuned for the next post and happy finals week!

-K

 

 

Liberating My Mind with 50 Questions, Pt. 1

Liberating My Mind with 50 Questions, Pt. 1

In lieu of the impending end of the semester and negativity that tends to surround it, I thought I would do something a little different this week. In my post 101 Goals, I mentioned wanting to answer the 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind a post by Marc Chernoff, a list of questions that give you a different, more positive outlook on various aspects of life. While 50 is quite a bit to do in one sitting, we will make this part one of a two part series of inspirational Whimsical Wednesdays. So, without further ado, here are my answers to these questions.

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? If I had the choice, I’d be in my mid-twenties
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying? Never trying- at least you learn a valuable lesson if you fail.
  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like, and like so many things that we don’t do? I think that people prioritize things that they feel as though they have to do rather than things that they want to do because it’s something that society has engraved in our minds.
  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done? I sure hope not, but usually if I say I’m going to do something or something needs to be changed, I’m proactive about it.
  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world? An end to terrorism and oppression, life is tough enough as it is, why make it harder for others?
  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? Writing, writing a lot
  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you’re doing? Currently, I’m doing what I believe in, and I intend on continuing to do so
  8. If the average human lifespan was 40 years how would you live your life differently? I have a lot of goals in life  and a long list of things I’d like to accomplish so I would probably be more proactive sooner rather than later.
  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken? I’ve controlled the vast majority of it thus far; I tend to be a bit of a control freak and extremely type-A.
  10. Are you more worried about doing things right or doing the right thing? Both, I worry way more than I should.
  11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do? I defend that friend regardless of the situation.
  12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be? Don’t wish time away, enjoy every moment.
  13. Would you break the law to save a loved one? Depends on the situation, but, most likely, yes.
  14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity? Yes, just check out any modern art museum
  15. What’s something you know you do differently than other people? Sleep with the fan on even in the dead of winter
  16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy? Because everyone has different opinions, personalities, etc.;
  17. What one thing you have not done that you would really like to do? What is holding you back? I want to travel to Europe. Lack of money.
  18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? Yes
  19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you live in, where would you move and why? I would probably move to Maryland or Massachusetts, I just think it’s so beautiful out that way and I would still have the four seasons like Michigan.
  20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe that it makes the elevator go faster?  No and no
  21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton? Joyous simpleton
  22. Why are you, you? Because only I have had the life experiences that happened in such a way that they shaped me to be the stubborn, driven individual I am today.
  23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? Absolutely
  24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives near you? Losing touch with a friend who lives near you
  25. What are you most grateful for? The unconditional love and support from my family and friends

If you’ve participated in answering these questions feel free to post the link below; I’d love to see what you have to say!

-K