Our Engagement Story

Happy 2020! It only took me 3 months, but I’ve finally had the time to write out my first blog post of the year, and it’s an exciting one that I didn’t think I would be writing for at least another year. 2020 has been a whirlwind thus far — January seemed to take FOREVER and then February flew by and I feel like I haven’t had a chance to catch my breath lately as things are getting crazier because….

WE’RE ENGAGED!! 

It was a complete and utter surprise. We’ve talked about getting married for a few years now, especially after being together for 6 years and doing long distance for 4; however, I didn’t anticipate anything happening for at least another year.

For years I’ve told Ryan that I had a list of rules for when he proposed:

1.) My nails needed to be done – not hard since I’ve been getting them done religiously for 2 years.

2.) He had to ask my dad for permission.

3.) Make sure that there is someone there to photograph it.

4.) Please do not stick the ring in food.

5.) Don’t do it at a sporting event.

Seems bratty, but I know what I want and I’m always sure to articulate it. Plus, luckily for me, he abided by all of these rules haha!

Now that I’ve had some time to digest it — mind you, it feels like a dream — I still can’t believe how well Ryan pulled everything off. Everything was absolutely flawless! I never knew what to expect from him, but it couldn’t have been more perfect and well thought out. Going back to the place where we had our first date and really started to fall for each other was the best way to jump start forever.

How it all went down…

It all started earlier in the week when my best friend reached out to us and asked if we wanted to go ice skating at Campus Martius in downtown Detroit with her and her husband. What a perfect way to throw me off, right?! When the plans were set, I had a fleeting thought of, “how awesome would it be to get engaged where it all began”, then I completely forgot about it until following the proposal.

When the day came, we met at their house to all drive down together. Everything seemed so normal on the car ride, aside from no one jumping on my suggestion of Shake Shack for dinner, which I thought was odd, but I didn’t think anything of it. During the ride I recounted a strange dream I had the night before about a wedding. Again, I didn’t think too far into this because it’s normal for me to have strange, vivid dreams. I mean, really, I could write a book on all of these dreams.

We headed to the rink, strapped on the skates, and began skating. Mind you, I cannot ice skate to save my life, so it’s more so Ryan pulling me around the rink as I attempt to stay upright. As we made our way around the rink, I couldn’t help but think about how grateful I am that Ryan is so patient with me when we go skating (he’s a hockey player, so he’s pretty darn good at it).

About an hour in, I was ready to be done when Ryan said, “come on, let’s just do one more lap”. Hungry, tired, and with aching feet, I obliged. Halfway through the lap, he turns to me and says, ” you know that dream you had about the wedding? I think you had the wrong person.” As Taylor Swift’s “Lover” played in background, he pulled the ring box out of his pocket, gets on one knee, and asks me to marry him. Of course, I said yes!! Well, more like nodded my head yes because I was so shocked that I could barely speak. He sweetly asked if I wanted to put the ring on because I couldn’t pull myself together or comprehend what was happening.

Afterwards, our friends snapped some photos of us and we went to 24 Grille where Ryan made reservations for us — hence the Shake Shack rejection — which was absolutely delicious. It was so special to have our best friends there to celebrate this milestone with us!

We have yet to start the planning process since we’re currently house hunting, but I’m so excited to share wedding content as we start our planning journey. In the meantime, please share any of your best wedding planning tips, tricks, or resources below or on my Instagram post!

-K.

HOT TIPS FOR PLANNING A JOINT BACHELOR-BACHELORETTE PARTY

One of the most fun aspects of planning a wedding is planning the bachelor/bachelorette party, but how does one go about planning a joint party for the bride and the groom?

I recently stood up as the Maid of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. It was my first time standing up in a wedding as a bridesmaid and I didn’t really know what to expect. One thing that I knew I would be responsible for is planning and executing the bachelorette party. My friend and her now husband decided that they wanted a joint party out of town, so I started to build my arsenal of ideas early on to make all of their bachelor-bachelorette party dreams come true.

When I started doing research for planning, I found that there were little to no posts about how to plan a joint bachelor-bachelorette party. So I decided to take the liberty to do it myself and bring you guys the hot tips and lessons learned during my time planning:

  1. Talk to the bride and groom about their expectations. Before you do anything, ask the bride and groom: a.) What city they want to celebrate in. b.) What their must-do activities and must-see attractions are. c.) Any other must-haves to make the weekend the bachelor/bachelorette party of their dreams.
  2. Start planning months in advance; DO NOT wait until the last minute. I started planning the party and gathering ideas immediately after the couple told me where they wanted to go. While the location changed as we got closer, I had both a Google document and Pinterest board going filled with ideas that could easily transfer. This also helps with budgeting; set a timeline for payments and purchasing decor, gifts, etcetera so you don’t blow all your money at once.
  3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I admit it, I’m a total control freak and perfectionist; I get an idea in my head and need to follow through on it. However, between my full-time job, planning the party, and maintaining my sanity, I needed an extra set of hands or two. The bride’s brother and sister-in-law graciously offered their assistance and helped play a pivotal role in the success of the party.
  4. Don’t worry about packing the schedule. It is not necessary (nor fun) to jam-pack the schedule so full of activities that you’re stressing out about making it to the activities on time and not having enough downtime. Remember: even though it is a bachelor-bachelorette party, people want to relax and enjoy their time, especially if they’re on vacation for it. I chose to leave at least one open day so that we could explore the town and do whatever it was we felt like doing at that time. 
  5. Spend a day of the trip — or at least a few hours — apart doing separate activities for the guys and ladies. It’s so important to give the bride and groom some time to focus on themselves with their guys or girls. Saturday morning of the weekend, the girls got massages at a local spa, while the guys went axe throwing. It was the perfect amount of time to focus on the bride and groom individually. Following these activities, we all met up at the hotel for a pool party prior to the evening festivities.
  6. Do not sweat the minute details.I know — easier said than done and I may or may not have broken this rule myself since it comes with the territory of being a perfectionist, but should you forget something minor or anything go awry, chances are you’re the only one who realizes it. Don’t overthink what goes in the gift bags or whether or not you have enough decor these things do not make or break the event.
  7. You absolutely CANNOT please everyone. There are only two people whose happiness matters: the bride and the groom. Double the attendees means double the opinions that do not matter. So long as the bride and groom are having fun and enjoying themselves, there’s no need to worry about anyone else.
  8. Event planning 101: If anything can go wrong, it will go wrong. People will show up to reservations late and winging the night might not always go to plan, just roll with the punches. Use your best judgement to handle the situation, and move on. Remember that you need to enjoy yourself too after all of your hard work.

Do you have any more tips that you didn’t see here? Drop them in the comments!

-K