Our Engagement Story

Happy 2020! It only took me 3 months, but I’ve finally had the time to write out my first blog post of the year, and it’s an exciting one that I didn’t think I would be writing for at least another year. 2020 has been a whirlwind thus far — January seemed to take FOREVER and then February flew by and I feel like I haven’t had a chance to catch my breath lately as things are getting crazier because….

WE’RE ENGAGED!! 

It was a complete and utter surprise. We’ve talked about getting married for a few years now, especially after being together for 6 years and doing long distance for 4; however, I didn’t anticipate anything happening for at least another year.

For years I’ve told Ryan that I had a list of rules for when he proposed:

1.) My nails needed to be done – not hard since I’ve been getting them done religiously for 2 years.

2.) He had to ask my dad for permission.

3.) Make sure that there is someone there to photograph it.

4.) Please do not stick the ring in food.

5.) Don’t do it at a sporting event.

Seems bratty, but I know what I want and I’m always sure to articulate it. Plus, luckily for me, he abided by all of these rules haha!

Now that I’ve had some time to digest it — mind you, it feels like a dream — I still can’t believe how well Ryan pulled everything off. Everything was absolutely flawless! I never knew what to expect from him, but it couldn’t have been more perfect and well thought out. Going back to the place where we had our first date and really started to fall for each other was the best way to jump start forever.

How it all went down…

It all started earlier in the week when my best friend reached out to us and asked if we wanted to go ice skating at Campus Martius in downtown Detroit with her and her husband. What a perfect way to throw me off, right?! When the plans were set, I had a fleeting thought of, “how awesome would it be to get engaged where it all began”, then I completely forgot about it until following the proposal.

When the day came, we met at their house to all drive down together. Everything seemed so normal on the car ride, aside from no one jumping on my suggestion of Shake Shack for dinner, which I thought was odd, but I didn’t think anything of it. During the ride I recounted a strange dream I had the night before about a wedding. Again, I didn’t think too far into this because it’s normal for me to have strange, vivid dreams. I mean, really, I could write a book on all of these dreams.

We headed to the rink, strapped on the skates, and began skating. Mind you, I cannot ice skate to save my life, so it’s more so Ryan pulling me around the rink as I attempt to stay upright. As we made our way around the rink, I couldn’t help but think about how grateful I am that Ryan is so patient with me when we go skating (he’s a hockey player, so he’s pretty darn good at it).

About an hour in, I was ready to be done when Ryan said, “come on, let’s just do one more lap”. Hungry, tired, and with aching feet, I obliged. Halfway through the lap, he turns to me and says, ” you know that dream you had about the wedding? I think you had the wrong person.” As Taylor Swift’s “Lover” played in background, he pulled the ring box out of his pocket, gets on one knee, and asks me to marry him. Of course, I said yes!! Well, more like nodded my head yes because I was so shocked that I could barely speak. He sweetly asked if I wanted to put the ring on because I couldn’t pull myself together or comprehend what was happening.

Afterwards, our friends snapped some photos of us and we went to 24 Grille where Ryan made reservations for us — hence the Shake Shack rejection — which was absolutely delicious. It was so special to have our best friends there to celebrate this milestone with us!

We have yet to start the planning process since we’re currently house hunting, but I’m so excited to share wedding content as we start our planning journey. In the meantime, please share any of your best wedding planning tips, tricks, or resources below or on my Instagram post!

-K.

HOT TIPS FOR PLANNING A JOINT BACHELOR-BACHELORETTE PARTY

One of the most fun aspects of planning a wedding is planning the bachelor/bachelorette party, but how does one go about planning a joint party for the bride and the groom?

I recently stood up as the Maid of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. It was my first time standing up in a wedding as a bridesmaid and I didn’t really know what to expect. One thing that I knew I would be responsible for is planning and executing the bachelorette party. My friend and her now husband decided that they wanted a joint party out of town, so I started to build my arsenal of ideas early on to make all of their bachelor-bachelorette party dreams come true.

When I started doing research for planning, I found that there were little to no posts about how to plan a joint bachelor-bachelorette party. So I decided to take the liberty to do it myself and bring you guys the hot tips and lessons learned during my time planning:

  1. Talk to the bride and groom about their expectations. Before you do anything, ask the bride and groom: a.) What city they want to celebrate in. b.) What their must-do activities and must-see attractions are. c.) Any other must-haves to make the weekend the bachelor/bachelorette party of their dreams.
  2. Start planning months in advance; DO NOT wait until the last minute. I started planning the party and gathering ideas immediately after the couple told me where they wanted to go. While the location changed as we got closer, I had both a Google document and Pinterest board going filled with ideas that could easily transfer. This also helps with budgeting; set a timeline for payments and purchasing decor, gifts, etcetera so you don’t blow all your money at once.
  3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I admit it, I’m a total control freak and perfectionist; I get an idea in my head and need to follow through on it. However, between my full-time job, planning the party, and maintaining my sanity, I needed an extra set of hands or two. The bride’s brother and sister-in-law graciously offered their assistance and helped play a pivotal role in the success of the party.
  4. Don’t worry about packing the schedule. It is not necessary (nor fun) to jam-pack the schedule so full of activities that you’re stressing out about making it to the activities on time and not having enough downtime. Remember: even though it is a bachelor-bachelorette party, people want to relax and enjoy their time, especially if they’re on vacation for it. I chose to leave at least one open day so that we could explore the town and do whatever it was we felt like doing at that time. 
  5. Spend a day of the trip — or at least a few hours — apart doing separate activities for the guys and ladies. It’s so important to give the bride and groom some time to focus on themselves with their guys or girls. Saturday morning of the weekend, the girls got massages at a local spa, while the guys went axe throwing. It was the perfect amount of time to focus on the bride and groom individually. Following these activities, we all met up at the hotel for a pool party prior to the evening festivities.
  6. Do not sweat the minute details.I know — easier said than done and I may or may not have broken this rule myself since it comes with the territory of being a perfectionist, but should you forget something minor or anything go awry, chances are you’re the only one who realizes it. Don’t overthink what goes in the gift bags or whether or not you have enough decor these things do not make or break the event.
  7. You absolutely CANNOT please everyone. There are only two people whose happiness matters: the bride and the groom. Double the attendees means double the opinions that do not matter. So long as the bride and groom are having fun and enjoying themselves, there’s no need to worry about anyone else.
  8. Event planning 101: If anything can go wrong, it will go wrong. People will show up to reservations late and winging the night might not always go to plan, just roll with the punches. Use your best judgement to handle the situation, and move on. Remember that you need to enjoy yourself too after all of your hard work.

Do you have any more tips that you didn’t see here? Drop them in the comments!

-K

Week In Review, Vol. III

Okay, I admit, I’ve been absolutely horrible about posting in the last month between work, my online class, and maintaining my sanity I haven’t been setting aside enough time to dedicate to my blog. BUT the class is over, I’ve got myself on a new routine, and I’ve been feeling SUPER creative lately so stay tuned for upcoming content. 

If you follow me on socials, you’ll know that my best friend recently got engaged! I love, love, love weddings so I’m incredibly excited to help her with the planning; I’m sure I’ll include some planning posts on here in the future!

In other news, nothing really kicks into gear the need/desire to get in shape like a wedding. Not only have I pushed myself to work out at least five days a week, but I’ve started watching what I’m eating a bit closer, while cutting out pop. I also start my day with a glass of apple cider vinegar water. I was totally apprehensive about this, but I have to admit, it WORKS! It’s only been a week, but I’m significantly less bloated and have better digestion daily. 

Keep scrolling to see what else I’ve been up to during my mini hiatus!

Quick Reads:

What I’m Reading: Love & Luck by Jenna Evans Welch

What I’m Watching: Sherlock on Netflix

What I’m Listening To:

God is a Woman // Ariana Grande

Happy Now // Zedd, Elley Duhé

Stay // 5 Seconds of Summer (available on Spotify)

Thunderclouds // Sia, Diplo, & Labrinth

Animal // Troye Sivan

I’m Good // Wafia

Must’ve Been ft. DRAM // Chromeo

Run Wild // Thutmose

Lost ft. Chelsea Jade // Jai Wolf

broken //lovelytheband

Latest Purchases:

  • Not a purchase, but as a birthday gift I received this adorable seersucker dress from Lilly Pulitzer from my parents, and I’m obsessed.
  • NARS Powermatte Lip Pigment in American Woman
  • These adorable J. Crew Factory block-heel sandals go with just about everything! 
  • These nude patent leather flats from J. Crew Factory are perfect for the office.
  • Everyone needs a classic, white button-down, so I had to pick up (yet another) while it was on sale!
  • This camel cotton-wool Teddie sweater is a must-have to gear up for fall layers, also from J. Crew Factory.
  • Jo Malone London Discovery Collection from the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale – English Pear & Freesia is my favorite!
  • Urban Decay Naked2 Basics Set, also from the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale – I’m super impressed with all of the products in this set. I’m going to need to add the eyeshadow primer potion and All Nighter setting spray to my regular makeup routine.

Looking Ahead: Now that the facelift is nearly complete, I’m looking forward to bringing you some new content! I’ve been feeling awfully nostalgic lately, especially after going back through posts from when I initially began my blog, and I’ve been looking to write some posts similar to how I used to write. Prepare yourselves for a few more thought-provoking and fashion-related articles as I go back to my roots! Also, if you have anything you’d like to see on the blog, comment below or DM me on my socials and I’ll be happy to share.

Have a fabulous weekend!

-K.

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Wedding Guest Dresses Under $100

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Wedding season is officially upon us, and is it just me or does it seem like everyone is getting married lately? The invitations are pouring in, gifts are being purchased, and (if you’re anything like me) you are struggling to find the perfect dress for the nuptials. However, the process of preparing for a wedding  – whether it’s your own, you’re standing up in said wedding, or you’re a guest – can cost a LOT of money.

According to a study by The Knot, a woman spends nearly $500 on average, while men spend about $700. This total includes not only apparel, but gifts, the bachelor/bachelorette party, travel and more. Holy moley!! The last thing you need is to spend a boatload of cash on new attire.

Now, there are a number of things to keep in mind while choosing a dress as a guest:

  • What the color scheme is — you don’t want to be matching the bridesmaids
  • The location of the wedding — if it’s in a church (depending on the religion) you may have to dress more conservatively; if it’s outside, you’ll want to take the weather into account
  • Never EVER wear white to a wedding as a guest unless the wedding invitation urges guests to wear all white for whatever reason

In my search for some new dresses, I’ve compiled a list of {appropriate} wedding guest dresses that won’t break the bank.

Lulu’s Make Me Move Maxi Dress

ASOS Boohoo Floral Plunge Neck Midi Skater Dress

ASOS PrettyLittleThing Ruffle Sleeve Maxi Dress

Nordstrom’s Soprano Lace Off the Shoulder Fit & Flare Dress

Francesca’s Tricia Crochet A-Line Dress

Nasty Gal’s Spring Affair Floral Midi Dress

Modcloth’s Camera Flash Finesse Wrap Dress

NOTE: There are also plenty of other options than buying a new dress, including renting one from a site such as Rent the Runway, borrowing, or simply wearing one you already have.

I’m still on the hunt for a few, so if you have any suggestions yourself, please feel free to reach out and let me know where you like to shop for dresses!

-K.